Wednesday, May 03, 2006
That's what Friends are for...When I think back, at all my friends who have stuck by me through thick and thin, I often wondered, why did these people actually bothered even a wee-bit, everytime I was either up or down. And that, over the course of the last few months, how some friends have just fallen by the wayside, and the reasons they gave me for having done so.
I understand now, why aloofness, is key, to a friendship. I always believe, in a certain degree of aloofness in whatever we do. Why friendship then, you may ask. We all have friends, with a certain degree of flaws and vices. C'mon, nobody's perfect. Yet, what makes their friends stick with them?? Aloofness, to their flaws. See, as much as we all have flaws in us, I believe, we do have some relative good too. For me, it could be one act of kindness, that could probably endear you to me for a long time, if not, at least I have something good to think about when your name pops up.
More often than not, this aspect of me tends to shadow out the other person's flaws, and as such, I rarely judge a person based on them. Some do, I have nothing against it. Its their way, of living their lives, and its only right, that we respect it. Most of us though, I choose to believe, do not do so. Of course, unless the person has totally made me lose my trust in him/her, then yeah, he/she can 'eat my shorts'.
Point is, a good friend is one, who brings out the best in you, whilst subtlely making you recognize your faults, with the only intention of not hurting your feelings, but rather to make you a better person. To all those friends who have done so till now, I say, Thank You, Gracias. I am indeed blessed, with such company, and it always bring me a lotta pride, when I share stories about you, to another friend.
To end off, with a rather poignant scene from Desperate Housewives that got stuck in my head, whilst on duty in camp last year. In the episode, Bree and Gabrielle happen to have problems on their own. I forgot who helps whom first, but the idea that was shared was something along the lines that, good friends show their concern by being there for each other, best friends show theirs by being aloof about it. Food for thought.
5:12 PM
supernova lit up.
